Choosing The Right Therapist
I am frequently asked the question,
"How do you choose the correct therapist?". These are some important considerations to keep in mind when choosing
a therapist in the Bay Area or anywhere else.
1-Ask For Referrals
Like any professional (attorney, doctor, contractor) there are therapists who are good and therapists who are not.
For this reason, it can be beneficial to get a referral from a friend or a trusted source because then you can make an informed
decision about the characteristics of the individual you work with.
2-Ask Questions
If there are specific issues you are going to see someone about, it can be quite helpful to ask about the therapist’s
experience and/or comfort level in dealing with these issues. If there is some quality you are specifically looking
for in a therapist (e.g., is this individual a parent?) you are free to ask. Be aware that not all individuals will
answer questions such as these, but regardless, it is additional information to help you in the process of choosing the right
therapist.
3-Speciality
Find out if there are any therapists
who specialize in what you are needing. For instance, I specialize in treating Adolescents and Men. It is often
helpful to see an individual who specializes in the issues you are looking to resolve because they often have lots of experience
with these issues and may be aware of additional resources which are available in your community.
4-How Do You FEEL About This Person?
While this may be a difficult question to answer for some, it is important
to know if you feel comfortable opening up to this individual and/or if you believe they will be able to accompany you on
the journey you are about to embark upon.
5-If Choosing For Someone Else,
How Would THEY Feel?
Oftentimes, parents interview me when they are seeking a therapist for their son or daughter.
In a situation such as this, it is important to keep in mind not only how comfortable YOU feel, but how comfortable your son
or daughter would feel with this individual.
6-Have An Interview Session
Just like choosing the right contractor for a job, it is totally appropriate to interview a therapist to ask questions and
to see if it feels right. Keep in mind that if a therapist is unwilling to do this, perhaps they are not appropriate
for you
7-Perhaps Most Importantly, Do Not Be Afraid To Choose Someone Else!
This decision is about YOUR well being. If for some reason the fit does not feel right, it may be helpful to speak
to your therapist about this. Sometimes, if this relationship continues to feel wrong, choosing someone else may be
beneficial.
Again, there may be other factors to consider as well, but this list is a good starting place!
